Why Kindness Never Goes Out Of Style
“‘The same neurohormonal chemistry that evolved to get us away from charging lions is locked and loaded today when we feel the least bit threatened,’ says Rick Hanson, PhD, founder of the Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom. ‘But while this stress reaction may have been helpful in the Serengeti, it’s harmful now.’ One reason: Negative encounters tend to leave stronger impressions than positive ones because they provoke more intense reactions. As a result, we develop a selective memory for failures, slights and bad breaks….”If this is true that negative encounters tend to stick with us longer than positive – and we know that it is – then this teacher was creating a positive encounter that had the power to crowd out lingering negatives. This exercise was so positive it just might undo the work of the offhand remark, the team you didn’t make, the invite you never received. This act of kindness on the part of the teacher and 24 classmates might make a lasting difference. And we can say that it did. Because it happened to one among us and she remembers it more than 30 years later. And she still has all 24 scraps of paper. Thank you, Mrs. Brumfield, from all of us. Your kindness is timeless.